An important milestone in the development of the child will beshowed the ability to comfort yourself when you are not around. To the child gained this independence, you must turn from the outer shape his world to incorporate a permanent presence. Multiple experiments prove your stability and reliability over time will create a stable internal emotional and mental image. In loneliness, grief, loss or experiencing conflict, your child will call his aid this image and it will find consolation, to feel again myself stable, loved structured. With this way he will be able to solve their problems and make decisions.

In principle, to three years in statuincorporated the image of the parent, but the development of this image continues throughout life. As a result, the child no longer wears the image of parents as something separate, because this image is fused with his personality. He no longer thinks, »It's okay, my mom loves» - he thinks, »I love, and all is well.»

You can help your child make thisimportant task. You have to give him not only the quality, but also a large number of its presence. Nothing can replace the huge amount of love communicate with you that your child will need to incorporate your image. You have to live with a lot of situations in which you find yourself next to the baby at the time when he will need your help. However, as the child grows gradually Encourage him to rely more on the incorporated love than you. This will contribute to its independence. He will begin to sleep alone in his little bed, alone wield a spoon, will allow you to get away, leaving him with a babysitter. Thus begins the process of growing up.