Some methods of education will help your child to move in the direction of the main goals of the educational process, namely, the self-control.
1. Control over the environment. The better you can plan and organize the environmentliving child, the fewer discipline problems you will occur. Suppose, you have visited the school and did not find in her books, boards, educational materials or game benefits. Do you have any doubt whether the teacher in such an environment to give children a good education and be able to discipline them properly.
Make sure that you have theIt contains all the games for children of all ages: in the rooms and in the yard. Long before a child begins to receive a formal education in the classroom, it is strongly influenced by the training program carried out by the parents at home. If your house is more like a museum, and there are too many »adult things» to which the child can not touch, you will certainly have serious problems. Create an interesting, incentive environment inside the house and in the yard.
2. Individual approach to every child. All children are different. We understand this and yet often try to apply the same methods of control for all children in the family. Since the combination of genes and environment results in the presence of each child his or her identity, parents need to use different methods of management each baby individually. With silent, easily vulnerable child should be treated differently than a noisy and moving extrovert.
3. Give your child the freedom to explore the environment. When your child is missing a spoon and hungryyourself, forget for a moment about the cleanliness of the table and let him do it. He is learning to be independent. If you continue to feed the baby with a spoon, then arrest his progress towards self-government. The same can be said about all other aspects of its activities. Once he learns to dress themselves, to open the door or pick up toys, let him do it, even if you will do everything himself.
4. Родительский пример. Родители являются живым примером для своего отпрыска, поскольку в нем заложена врожденная склонность подражать. Мы прививаем ребенку положительные или отрицательные черты на бессловесном языке своего поведения. Если мы вежливы и жизнерадостны, ребенок также будет расти жизнерадостным и вежливым. Если мы в трудное время проявляем терпение и решительность, то же самое будет делать и наш ребенок. Если мы уважаем его права и чувства, он будет уважать наши права и чувства,
5. Natural consequences. This is one of the most powerful methods of teaching,but few parents use it. Eleven Arthur left his baseball glove on the court, and when I returned for it, found that it is not there. Dad was upset because Arthur has lost a third glove over the summer. He scolded him and read him a long lecture about the money, that should be cherished things, to be a responsible person and take care of their personal property. But in the end, he relented. »Well, tomorrow I'll buy you another glove, but it will be the last season in a glove! Now promise me that you will not lose it the next time »(The same pope spoke after Arthur lost his other glove).
In this case, the father was a golden opportunityapply the principle of natural consequences, but because he felt sorry for Arthur, who will not be able to play baseball without a glove, he shielded his son from the consequences of his absent-mindedness. Dad could tell Arthur that he can buy a new glove on their pocket money, and if Arthur was the lament about the lack of such, the pope had to be calm, but said firmly that his son will have to be patient and to accumulate the necessary amount.
Если естественные последствия приятны, ребенок будет и дальше вести себя так же, в противном случае у него появится стимул изменить свое поведение. Родители часто ограждают ребенка от естественных последствии его поступков, и он начинает в любом случае полагаться на защиту родителей. Когда родители лишают ребенка возможности пожинать последствия его действий, они отнимают у него возможность учиться на личном опыте и уверенно стоять на своих ногах.
Одно предупреждение: в данном вопросе пользуйтесь здравым смыслом. Родители, позволяющие малышу выбегать на проезжую часть, дабы тот учился на естественных последствиях, могут в конце концов лишиться ребенка Родителям следует ограждать ребенка от естественных последствий, когда это чревато серьезными травмами или летальным исходом. Но если естественные последствия связаны лишь с неприятными ощущениями, которые испытывает ребенок, дайте ему возможность вкусить их.
