Unfortunately, men are preparing for bad executionpaternal responsibilities. A young girl can get some experience of the nurse, and then enroll in classes for the organization of family life. But I do not know of any system of preparation of the fathers to fulfill their important mission. However, it is important emotionally healthy child that men understand their invaluable role in the development.
When a young man is dating herprospective bride and cares for it, it retains a certain independence. After marriage the husband learns quickly to include in their plans for a wife, but still retains some independence. With the advent of the child he increasingly loses its independence and discovers that his wife is dependent on him even more than before, and needs to be especially strong love, affection and encouragement, as well as a sense of security. A man should understand this need and wife to give her full support. In this case, and the child will be transferred to the certainty that the couple gain by working together.
Although the mother usually stays with the baby, should not beunderestimate the role of the father. Fathers are making manifold contributions to the growth and development of the child, the most important part of which - to raise her son a real man. The boy takes over his father's masculine qualities of character, and they become an integral part of his personality. It was from his father the young man learns how to behave as a real man. If a father wants his son developed a healthy attitude towards women, it is obliged by example to show him respect for his mother, because the child will form a system of values, looking at how Mom and Dad get along with each other. If the son says that his father disparagingly refers to women, he begins to imitate him. If the father familiarly behaves with friends of his wife, his son quickly learn how to copy her behavior and will think that way, and a man should treat women.
Girls no less than boys need goodrelationships with their fathers. Girl needs to comprehend the difference between male and female roles, and the father the task - to help her develop femininity. Fathers need to understand that a growing girl needs a father's positive assessment. She needs to dress in such a way that it was pleasant to look at it, and behave as befits a girl. One of the reasons why so few adult women feel a real intimacy, comfort and understanding in relationships with men is that their fathers in childhood did not give them the opportunity to develop these feelings.
Caring relationship between a young girl andher father later have a great influence on her sexual behavior and Actress. Dr. Seymour Fisher of the State University of New York studied the differences between women with high and low sexual sensitivity. He found that a woman's ability to have an orgasm is closely linked to its opinion about whether it is possible to trust people in general and men in particular.
Women are able to reach orgasm,We had in childhood emotionally healthy relationship with their fathers. They have a child convinced that men are called to take care of the interests of women, and in every way to protect her.
Women who do not reach orgasm withoutWe had as a child of this stabilizing factor. They believed that people who mean a lot in their lives, or leave, or let them down, but because they can not rely on them. They came to the conclusion that they can not trust their husbands and relax in their arms. The above concerns have deprived of their ability to respond to a man's affection.
The researcher came to the following conclusion: »The lower a woman's ability to have an orgasm, the greater the likelihood that her father, in her opinion, treated her» lightly », without making a conscious attempt to manage or take on any commitments; He was carefree and careless rather than require compliance with clear rules. In other words, the higher a woman's ability to have an orgasm, the less liberal and more demanding, in her opinion, was her father. »
It is clear that to a large extent the fatherIt sets the tone in the early years of her daughter and leaves in her mind an indelible mark, which depends largely on what she would expect from a future spouse. The girl, whose father is a keen interest in her life, giving her the time and effort very early learns that the man really cares about how it will develop later in life. Little girl need to have a father who will help her form the norms of behavior in later life.
The stabilizing role of the father goes far beyondmaterial support and create comfort in the house. When the family is not the father, or he is not interested in family life, children develop serious shortcomings in the area of social and moral relations with their mothers, peers and neighbors. Than the immediate family father supervises and directs it, the more likely that his family will be stable, and children will feature more emotional stability.
Если отец предполагает, что может полностью взвалить на жену бремя воспитания детей, значит, он не принял на себя отцовской ответственности. Родительское воспитание — это работа для двоих, особенно если учесть ту сложную среду, в которой мы живем. Ребенку нужно совсем немного времени, чтобы уяснить для себя, насколько хорошо отец выполняет свою роль.
