The workshops for parents withTeenage children, I often ask them what they think life experience rebellion: negative or positive. Stunned parents rebellion assigned a negative sign. By definition, the rebellion - the resistance to the authority and control of a parent, or even its complete rejection. But think for a moment. What would happen if your child never resisted your control and not reject it? He would always remain at your fifth (and possibly under your roof).

In the teenage years, the emerging adulta person begins to be released from parental values, attitudes and directives and is trying to create their own. So in this sense, it is a positive process, ie the process of approval of their own individuality, a code of ethics, values, attitudes and beliefs. In some teenagers it starts early, others - later. For some this is a difficult transition for the other - light.

For all the self-determination process teenIt is an indispensable procedure. If they do not pass through it in the allotted time, it is likely to happen to them in the future, for example, in middle age. Many midlife crisis really is nothing else like a belated stage of the uprising. It will be much better if the people will survive this experience in a designated period of time.

Rebellious teenager requires recognition of itsindividuality. He does not want you to continue to consider him as their own, but yet you are still responsible for it. He tries to understand himself, who he is, what he believes and what principles advocated. His self-determination and self-esteem in great danger. Looking for answers to the above questions, a teenager can more painful than before, to respond to your credibility. At this time you will be wise enough to understand, and that his attacks are not directed against you personally, but it is normal logic its internal development.

Average rebelliousness lead a teenager to adulthood. This constructive period will help him get rid of the children ways of solving their problems and develop independence of judgment. At times it will be difficult to maintain open communication with him, but even in the difficult moments of the parent and teenager should openly discuss challenges and look for solutions. Remember that only a teenager learns to cope with their own feelings and your feelings and reactions.

Strong fluctuations in the mood to your teenmay discourage you. Sometimes he behaves as if he is the »king of the hill» overlooking from a height of eagle flight life and all its dazzling splendor. You will not have time to adjust to this his attitude, as he is in the abyss of despair and hopelessness. He exaggerates exaggerates or all aspects of life. It all seems wonderful or terrible, or, or too hot or too cold, or the wonderful and amazing and vile and disgusting. Your mature behavior and reaction to help him understand that life is 10 percent of what happens to a man, and 90 percent of its reaction to events.

While a teenager all thoroughly investigates, it is notenough exposure a long look in the same direction. Today, he can climb out of their way to see your favorite girl, and after a few weeks will be more carefully avoided meeting her. For a while, he can go crazy for pizza and wonder after a while, why is it so popular with many of his friends.

In the case of manifestations of rebellion can you expectthat your teen will challenge your authority in several areas: it can snap, to argue with you, challenge your rules and regulations, to doubt the religious values ​​and reject the established family tradition. It will defiantly ignore the authorities, provocatively dressed and listening to trendy music. Many teenagers experiment with alcohol, drugs and sex.

Much of it depends on you, whether your stayteenager within the »norm» in the period of rebellion or out of them in terms of intensity and direction of his rebellion. If you double the dictatorships that control efforts, seeds of rebellion are deep roots in your child's heart. Perhaps some time you will be able to restrain him, but he can vow that someday in some way he had to get even with you. However, if you have patience in that time, when your child is looking for yourself, you will not spoil relations with him, and this is extremely important, is not it?