Did you say to yourself: »If everything is okay, then what is not normal?». Abnormal rebellion draws family in constant battle over money, cars, dating, friends, rules, time of arrival and other home. The Cold War is raging in the family, whose members are afraid to express their opinions out loud, so as not to cause more tension and unrest. Abnormal rebellious teenager withdraws from the trunk, way of life. It forces him to walk the narrow, circuitous paths that can arouse his anger and hatred.
Often abnormal rebellion can be measuredfrequency and intensity of tricks. Defies logic tricks teenagers - it's just a rebellious way to say, »I'm not going to obey the rules.» Many times teenagers are desperately trying to bring to the attention of parents, »Now, perhaps, you have turned on me at least some attention.»
Rebellion becomes abnormal whenteen refuses to comply with reasonable house rules, does not come home on time, often experimenting with alcohol, drugs and / or sex, constantly committing an offense or is ridiculous outfits. In short, abnormal rebellion implies resolute refusal to cooperate with parents and family, or to perform public duties. The more a young age, the teenager comes to the stage of the abnormal rebellion, the harder it will be to his family, especially if younger children see their behavior and may imitate him. Abnormal rebellion will be bad example for younger brothers and sisters. At times you will break your head, how long to endure the antics of a teenager and when you need to put a stop to it.
Быть может, вы никогда не столкнетесь с ненормальным бунтарством. Однако если у вас двое или более детей, то шансы столкнуться с этим явлением существенно повышаются, что бы вы ни говорили в прошлые годы о поведении других подростков. Возможно, глядя на детей подросткового возраста в соседских семьях, вы утверждали: «Когда мои дети станут подростками, они не будут так вести себя! Я этого не допущу!». Родителю маленького ребенка трудно представить себе, что ожидает его в будущем. Такой родитель приказывает своему ребенку сидеть на стуле до его возвращения и ожидает, что малыш обязательно выполнит эту просьбу. С подростком такой уверенности быть не может. У него есть свой разум и своя индивидуальность. Как бы мы ни старались, нам не удастся всегда управлять разумом и индивидуальностью подростка. Я тоже была склонна указывать обвиняющим перстом на других родителей и на их ошибочные методы воспитания до тех пор, пока мы сами не столкнулись с ненормальным бунтарством одного из трех наших детей, которым я посвятила эту книгу.
As a young mother, I was friends with a woman,four children. It seemed to me that the mother more than anyone else could raise perfect children. She and her husband were God-fearing Christians, the whole family regularly participate in family worship. In this house there was a double standard. They attached great importance to the joint family activities. However, they have had serious problems with one child, when he reached adolescence.
One distraught mother wrote to me: "Tim fared better. It happens regularly in the church and broke relations with the girl, to which I belonged extreme disapproval. morning
He goes to school and work day. In his spare time repairing your Chevrolet 55. He still has a long way to go, but there are undeniable changes for the better.
For me this It was a heavy experience, but there is a blessing in disguise. Finally, I was able to separate their duties from Tim duties. In
I somehow developed a misconceptionif our children do not have any problems if we educate them on the Book of books. I forgot about the human will. We can only do what we can, and then the child should decide for themselves whether they will follow our example and teaching.
P.S. I pray to God that you have never had these experiences with your children. »
My friend shared several importantthoughts. Firstly, there comes a time when we as parents, we can not consider himself guilty of irresponsible decisions that take our teenagers. If they make a reckless choice, paying no attention to our warnings, you should reap the benefits of these solutions. Secondly, there is no guarantee that we will grow normal children because we read the Bible, worship and carry home »doing everything in our power.» Although the Bible, family worship, Christian schools, regular church attendance, parental example and the sequence of important and useful in the education of children, they do not even guarantee that our children will grow up respectable Christians. No parent can not and should not try tosuch a degree of control over the fate of their teenager. As God gives us freedom of action, and we need to give our young people the freedom to make decisions.
God always accepts us if we repent and askHis forgiveness. So we need to always be ready again to conclude our erring child in his arms, Mark was the biggest rebel in our house. In the teenage years, he tested his religious values, trying to deny our values. He sat with us on family worship, but in every way made it clear he does not want to be there. On Friday evening, we organized »family night»: read inspirational stories, singing, and in the winter sitting by a warm fire. During these hours, our family was united after the hard, working week. At the end of such a nice evening we knelt in a circle, put their hands on each other's shoulders and pray. This symbolized our family unity and togetherness.
