You are not limited to those that help children to integrate into your life work, you want also to help them develop those special talents, interests, abilities, which in the form of the potential God gave them.
The education of the child includes this task: help him to identify and develop those abilities that will bring him joy and success in life.
Identification of talents
In the soul of your child has some hidden gifts that are waiting in the wings to bloom in the form of talents and abilities. God has already made His case, and now the turn is yours. Your task — to offer the child a variety of experiences so that you both can understand what he likes, what values, what shows the increased capacity.
My father is now retired he is very well versed in electronics. He did it with a childhood during the Second world war and established radio communication in the Navy. His knowledge earned him enough money so he could raise four children. Many businesses in Eastern North Carolina were invited Jack Townsend, if required to establish radio contact.
My father took me to the Studio and showed what he was doing, gave me certain instructions. He allowed me to try his work and to check up, whether and I tend to do electronics. It turned out it's not my style. We made sure that no electronics, no technology at all, I have no interest, and abilities is not enough.
In high school, when I it was time to think about the future profession, the father suggested:
— You know, you know how to communicate with people. Why don't you learn to be a lawyer?
I'm not too interested in the law (except that gathered a fair amount of jokes about lawyers), but it's seemingly random remark cut me to my soul.
And in College, and then working and getting higher education, I again and again, that I am most attracted to a profession that allows you to help people. I've tried many options, participated in various organizations at the Church, in missionary and pastoral activity, and finally realized that my calling is psychological counseling.
Its seemingly random, but actually profoundly thoughtful remark of father helped me to understand that I like to do. Although I'm not big on technology in my profession and I like technical details, studies in theology and psychology. As, however, well turned out that I did not follow in his father's footsteps and spared the world from my attempts in the field of electronics!
From a very early age the child will benefit from stimulating surroundings, with the opportunity to engage in different activities corresponding to a certain stage of development. At preschool age need to use interactive toys, paint, pencils, clay, to develop imagination and creative activity. When the child becomes older, can not be confined to school. Need mugs for art or mathematics, sports clubs, Sunday school, the child must learn to help people. With these light game problems begins what will eventually turn into the ability to work. For a child play is work. For more healthy and opening something new classes should become the norm in the family. This invitation and encouragement to new discoveries.
In one familiar to me the family was a rule: all three daughters each academic year chose a new sport, club or other activity.
When the girls grew up, they focused on their favorite activities. However, by that time they had time to try basketball, swimming, Golf, tennis, chess, dancing, playing the piano, choir, charity and more. There is nothing surprising in the fact that now all three girls are experienced babysitters with references. All of the district excitedly invites them to sit with children.
Development
Give your child the opportunity to identify their interests. When he finds attractive occupation, will invest some of his time and energy, ask him to do it more tightly, to develop his talent. Thus the child will enjoy their classes and achieve success in it, and maybe thereby gain a profession for life. Help the child to develop his interest and skills.
However, one interest is not enough to motivate children to improve their skills in specific areas. A child is missing incorporated structure that would cause it to persist in achieving the goal. The structure required the parent to help the child to make a schedule and stick to it, to have chosen business as long as this structure will not become part of the child.
Some parents tend to be guided by the level of interest of the child. They think: if the child is bored, it means that it's time to do something else. In the early years the way it is: preschooler switches from drawing to singing and not Depew, asks his mother to read a story — he can't permanently focus their attention. However, as the child grows, he must learn the discipline to finish what they had started. Few of the children appeals to parents with this request: "I am sick and tired rest. Give me a task on multiplication!".
You must assume the role of a coach. Help your child to understand that his dedication invested in time and energy, practical skills become a high level of competence in this area. The child will need long experience. Don't let him leave the team, additional training or another activity until the end of the school year, if only he didn't have any insurmountable problems. Of course, if a child behaves is disgusting and disturbs the whole team have to take him out of the section. But in any case should not reward him plenty of free time and the right to hang out in the yard and watching TV. The time previously allotted for sports, should now priiplyusovali to work at home or in the community, to participate in another activity that does not cause a child such a negative reaction. If the child just whines — say, he's tired and doesn't want to go to school — you have to answer: "Yes, dear. Of course, starting a business much easier, than to bring it to the end.
Notes recorded in this section and should stay — and for my own sake, and for the team".
Basic skills
Parallel to becoming a master in any chosen field, a child must acquire skills and compulsory in those areas of life that affect all adults: in studies, problem solving, communication, language, personal hygiene and health care, in home care and maintenance. You need to pay attention to the balance and to give children a clear idea about the relationship of life and work. If the child shows talent in some area, parents are obliged to invest additional money and effort to develop this ability, but we should not neglect the development of the fundamental, essential skills. How many stories have we heard about child prodigies have failed in adulthood with either work or personal life.
Parents as "background"
You must properly understand their role. To help the child master the necessary skills, you must play the role of the background, to create a structure that will help the baby to feel its growth. You can't mix your own achievements and goals with the objectives and results of their child.
• Don't become pretentious parents who need regular child's progress to meet their own needs.
• Do not control themselves the achievements of the child.
Listen to experts — they will help you to understand what you can expect and demand from the child.
• Do not force your child to devote his life to the development of his talent. He should be a lot of other good things in life, needs to be friends. Keep your life in balance. Let the child remains normal.
• Don't idealize their child. His ego, ambitions, deceit and irresponsibility have not gone away. Don't let him get away from reality, please provide it in every clash with the reality of grace and truth.
To help the child discover and develop their talents in specific areas, and in relation to life tasks in General, — your great purpose. You have to constantly imagine what will be your child, when you grow up, how time spent on education will pay off, because you will prepare the person to face the adult world.
