IN THE FAMILY, THE »ANOTHER UNCLE»
Your child will first be very jealous of youA new friend. All children always struggle for the boundless attention of their mother, and if they feel that it becomes at least a little less - there should be a reaction. They can be understood, they identify themselves not only with you, they have a father, also, by the way, a beloved one. And what did you dare to do? You have chosen someone else. And He comes to your family, sits at the table, and even hugs Mom - well, that's really impudence! Someone will remain silent and wear these feelings in themselves for many years, someone will begin to protest actively - to behave in such a way that you doubt whether this is my child. But do not forget, you deserve to be happy, all attempts at manipulation must be thwarted.
The situation changes every day, every minute. People get used to everything and what yesterday seemed impossible, today it becomes familiar and understandable. Gradually, too, the children will get used, the main thing is patience. Another point, it is better that the new elect did not stay away from common problems. You will be very pleased if at least a friendly relationship develops between the children and the new couple. There are a lot of examples, often women note that the stepfather is very warm to the child from the first marriage. Behave like a captain, leading his ship in difficult conditions - flexibly and reliably. If the wedding day is appointed - talk to the child in advance, this should not be a surprise for him. In general, think, think and think again. The other extreme of women is the prohibitions on meeting a child with her own father. If you do this, then you know it's not right. They are also a family, let them be, but they are the closest people. Therefore, in order not to offend the child, stop at home to discuss the ex-husband or his relatives.
By CI? PICTLE ST? EAT YOUR NEW FAMILY
Family trips to the circus, the zoo, to the theatricalPerformances or premiere of movies are very useful and interesting, do not forget about them. Joint hobbies also bring people together, let your son go with his stepfather, for example, to the museum of military equipment or go fishing together, encourage every opportunity for better contact. The man with whom your life is now bound is also entitled to rely on your attention and care. He must feel loved. Do not give up offers of joint weekends or picnics. In general, constantly try to find a middle ground, harmony in the family, work on yourself, try to look good, live a full, interesting life.
Nobody promises you that it will be easy. There is a big and everyday work to do, but what is worth trying is not discussed. Fate gave you a chance again. Do not forget that now you are a happy woman who has so many family, close and loved people nearby.
