Secure good behaviour
Mother was very difficult to deal withfour-Patrick. Her dear baby often kicked things or people, tore off his clothes and tore it, roughly speaking with others, injured infant sister, voiced various threats, beat himself, often angry and demanded constant attention. In the end, my mother took the baby to the hospital where he was diagnosed with anxiety, a possible brain injury and poorly developed speech.
One of the therapists were asked to one hour a dayfor 16 days to monitor the behavior of Patrick. During this hour, Patrick made between 25 and 112 acts, unacceptable to his mother. When there has been a similar behavior, my mother, as a rule, patiently explained to his son, why you should not do that. Sometimes she tried to interest him in other things, repeatedly punished Patrick, robbing him a toy or a thing, which he used for other purposes. But usually he managed to convince his mother almost immediately return to it the selected item. Occasionally she put him on a chair as a punishment, but in this case, the child rolled deafening hysteria, and my mother tried to persuade his son to calm down.
Behavior Patrick could quickly change. The observer in the house of her mother filed signals, raising one, two or three fingers. One finger meant misconduct - in this case the mother should immediately stop his son, that is, to warn him. If he does not let up, the therapist raised two fingers. This meant that the mother should be immediately locked Patrick in his room, that is, to punish him. He was to remain there for as long as the rest. If Patrick played well, the observer raised three fingers. This signal meant that the mother should pay attention to the boy, praise him or hug and squeeze it to themselves, thus perpetuating the desired behavior.
In just a few days of Patrick succeeded almost completelyget rid of unwanted behavior, follow-up observations showed that the mother interacts well with the little boy, and he no longer gave her trouble, »Patrick got more love and attention from their mother and treated her tenderly. Mom kid realized that can change its behavior, giving it the attention and affection in the case of good discipline and mildly punishing unacceptable behavior when a verbal warning did not help. You will also be able to change the behavior of their child. This tactic puts you and your fixing incentives in pole position and eventually help your child become more cheerful!
