In short, the problem is as follows: God ordained that your child, like all human beings, live in perfect peace among the people and committed to be perfect, but now in a fallen world, people need to reconcile the ideal with imperfection. Your task - to teach the child to remember the ideal and strive for it recognizing forgiving and redeeming those flaws, which he will find in himself, in others and in the world as a whole. It is necessary to raise a child character, steady in the face of reality, able to accept it with grace and overcome it.

Ребенку свойственна тенденция делить весь свой опыт на «сплошь хороший» и «сплошь плохой». Как и все мы, он склонен считать себя и других «хорошими», пока все идет хорошо, и «плохими», если что-то складывается не так. Можно заметить, с какой яростью младенец таращится на мать, не поспевшую вовремя, не предотвратившую его одиночество или голодный крик. В этот момент мать для него «совсем плохая».

For the baby, toddler, parentsIt becomes »bad» at the time when they set boundaries and interfere with the child to manage their own lives. Then, with the same severity of a child he condemns himself, if not doing its job. Teenager injured in his first week after the college had not been invited to the ball, he considers himself a »fool» and »loser».

Only incorporated truth with grace,the child will be able to successfully overcome and downs and ups. Such a character is created only by repeated experiences with loving and loyal parents but the truth, forces the child to accept the reality of ourselves and others while maintaining your ideal.