The second factor, no less important, is the voice of conscience, her "intonation": "angry" conscience does not help the child, on the contrary, she would be his enemy. It's like lurking in his soul a loaded gun, ready to strike the child as soon as he makes the slightest mistake.

According to the Bible, there are two ways of life: under law and under grace. The law is a system of rules that must be followed, so as not to incur the wrath, condemnation, loss of love. In the eyes of the law, the child may be "bad", and this leads to alienation. Then the child is fully absorbed in his external behavior to regain the love and get rid of this awful feeling. The law speaks to us:

• angrily

• severely

• sarcasm

• hard

• aloof

• awakening a sense of guilt and citing symptoms aimed at the conquest of love.

Grace "behaves" quite differently. She (thanks) recognizes the content of the law, because the rules are really necessary, but to the very person she is otherwise. Grace knows no anger, hatred, condemnation, alienation, guilt, refusal relations, and so forth. We understand that grace always for the child, not against him, but because she says:

• with love

• support

• lean towards the child

• forgiving him

• restoring the relationship

• restoring force

• motivating good behavior from the standpoint of love.

Why is the tone we have included among the three most important factors? Because of this intonation to some extent is determined by whether your child to listen to the voice of his conscience. If you teach the child a system of values, but the conscience will say to him from the standpoint of the law, he will either resist it, or break his neck, trying in everything to the smallest detail to please the inner "censor". The Bible warns us about this. In Romans the Apostle Paul says that the law increases sin (5:20) and hatred (4:15). The saddest thing is the law isn't helping anybody to become better (see Hebrews 7:18-19).

If while educating you resort to the intonations of the law, you know what you to expect: the problems will grow, the child will awaken anger or an overwhelming sense of guilt, he will only be able to outwardly follow the rules and don't learn to control yourself.

So, the child should not just to "have a conscience" — he should have such a conscience, which was to be his friend. Conscience will guide him with love, help him to do the right thing. Next, we will show that conscience teaches the child to focus not so much on guilt, but rather on the feelings of others. In short, the conscience, and the grace of God, strict but merciful, demanding, but compassionate. She cares about the welfare of the child, guiding him towards it.

How to teach man's conscience? Recall: "that was outside, will be inside".