Почему сразу после брака уменьшается удовлетворение от супружеской жизни? Большинство пар оказываются не в состоянии приспосабливаться к новым условиям, то есть к совместной жизни. Романтические мечты часто ослепляют их, и они бывают не готовы к той суровой реальности, с которой часто сталкиваются новобрачные. Но почему присутствие детей в ряде случаев уменьшает удовлетворение от брака?
Children - are »an heritage of the Lord», they are calledbe a blessing. But the couple must first feel that their relationship is not in danger, and only then have a child. The couple, believing that having a baby will strengthen the shaky relationship, does not understand the logic of life. Children further complicate the relationship. In fact, the birth of a child in the first two yearsmarriage twice increases the likelihood of divorce. Since currently already decomposes half of marriage, this means that only one of the four pairs of contact considered to cope with the situation when all other factors equal.
The majority of couples completelynot ready for parenthood demands, and lack the necessary training generates anxiety and stress with which young couples, as a rule, do not. During the nine months of pregnancy, the couple bought all the necessary clothes and furniture for dear baby, and if they get some training in the direct care of it, it is only at a seminar on fertility, where parents teach the dynamics of the birth of the baby. But parents do not teach it, how to educate and train the baby.
That the suddenness with which the young couple fallparental responsibilities, further highlights its lack of preparation. During the honeymoon, the young couple gradually get to know each other. And if suddenly the child is born, they have no room for further gradual acquaintance. That's why in the marital relationship there comes a crisis The relationship between husband and wife begin to compete with the relationship between parent and child for the time, affection and care. Now a husband and wife go to the touch, trying to figure out how to rebuild the relationship with each other.
Is it possible to resolve this dilemma? Preparation ... Preparation ... Preparation for the execution of conjugal and parental responsibilities. Only the knowledge does not allow all the problems associated with the introduction of the necessary changes in his life, but it certainly will help couples reasonable advance to prepare for what awaits them.
A healthy relationship between parent and childThey are the result of a healthy relationship between husband and wife. This strengthens the bonds of love in the child a sense of security. Emotional stability and the mother a sense of security depends on the love, security and satisfaction she feels in the relationship with her husband. The sense of self-esteem of women largely depends on how much it valued, respected and cherished. Not only its relation to itself, but also the fulfillment of its role as a wife and mother is largely dependent on favorable treatment and support from her husband. Consequently, the relationship between husband and wife are the determining factor that will determine whether a husband and wife, high-grade parents.
