A group of 369 high school students and 415senior pupils were asked to list the ten qualities most desirable for the father. The following feature was mentioned most frequently: »to spend time with their children.» Missing or often absent father can make hismentally disabled children, juvenile delinquents and even homosexuals. Dr. Stanley Iollz, director of the National Institute of Mental Health, says that the father is able to significantly reduce the likelihood that their child has ever committed an offense, as well as have a decisive influence on his mental health and the mental factor endowments.
In another case, three hundred learned psychologist boysSeventh and eighth grade students. They were asked to record each week for personal diaries, how much time fathers spend with them. It turned out that a typical father and son talking seven minutes and fifteen seconds a week!
If the father is at home regularly, it becomesas if absent father. Loaded with a doctor, an ambitious businessman or a successful salesman working at least twelve hours a day are considered absent fathers. A good way to determine the true status of the father - to find out how many times a week, he has dinner and breakfast with your family.
One of the best qualities of John F. Kennedy was that he talked every day with their children. He always had time noisy and fun to play with them, or take a ride on the boat, tell them funny stories. Despite his busy schedule, Kennedy took an active part in the lives of children. Compare this example with the behavior of the legendary farmer who once in the afternoon told his son, »to milk the cows, feed the horses and pigs, collect eggs, catch the foal, cook kindling oven, whip cream, to pump fresh water to learn the lessons and go sleep », and he went to a meeting where the issue was discussed:» How to keep our sons on the farm? ».
Furthermore, valeno, what время отец проводит с ребенком. Ребенок будет с теплым чувством вспоминать сцены из детства только в том случае, если отец really I was next to him in critical moments. In most cases, the child is more important is not the scene, but the very time spent with his father. It is with great pleasure to remember that day, when walking with her father in a nearby park, and very soon forget, when his father brought him a new toy. Nevertheless, the average baby every day more and more difficult to carry out for a long time with his dad. There seems to be an important inverse relationship: the more money the father brings to the family, the less time it communicates with it. If the father is thoughtfully and sincerely respond to given him an important question, or help his son in a timely manner to solve the problem, the child classifies those minutes or hours as »quality time.»
Fathers are absent, do not take home importantsolutions that do not feed their children an example, one will find that the offspring are not considered them. Such Pope then complain that their kids - it's strangers living in their house. A good father is perceived by children as a caring man, ready to help, accessible, sometimes fair and sometimes unfair, but always loving them and pay attention to them.