Why are mercy and truth are so important in raising a child?
In all the literature on education formany centuries is a question of truth and grace. Often the two are referred to as »love and boundaries.» Why are they so important? To understand this, think of the creation of the human race. The Bible says in the beginning God created Adam in His own image. People understand this tradition in different ways, scholars point to these features of the person, the mind and the will, emotion and morality.
The Bible constantly refers to these attributes of God,as a mercy and kindness, truth and compassion, grace and righteousness. One of the Psalms speaks of how God merge into both these qualities: »Mercy and truth are met together; righteousness and peace have kissed each other» (Psalm 84:11). In another psalm, King David turns to God in prayer to give him these items in their hour of need, »Withhold not, O Lord, thy tender mercies from me; thy mercy and thy truth continually preserve me »(Psalm 39:12).
God, in His eternal life exhibits these traits andIt sends them to us, His creation, so that we have lived them in their lives. We need a love that supports human relations, and the truth, which guides us in our actions and ensures reliability.
But here's the problem: from the birth of these qualities are given to us by no means fully developed. We have only potential to produce those properties. For the actualization of this potential need to incorporate and develop the grace and truth. Next, we will discuss inseparably related to each other processes development and incorporation. Here we give a brief explanation to link these processes with the concepts of »grace» and »truth.»
Развитие предполагает рост или распространение. Хорошие родители помогают детям растить и умножать свои способности к восприятию милости и истины. В следующей главе мы покажем, как развитие разворачивается во времени, однако сам по себе этот процесс не происходит — главным действующим лицом в нем являются родители. Проявляя любовь и строгость, питая, наставляя, наказывая, помогая преодолевать неудачи и учитывать их, вы даете ребенку возможность учиться на собственном опыте. Потенциал у него есть, но ему нужно расти и расширяться. В качестве родителя вы становитесь основным «движителем» роста и развития.
However, the child needs not only experience and practice. He must incorporate в себя милость и истину, принять внутрь себя то, что он видит и переживает в своих самых первых отношениях, за пределами себя самого. Родители предоставляют ребенку образцы милости и истины; дети воспринимают эти качества и инкорпорируют их как часть собственной личности.
Thus, mercy and truth areever included in the »software» in their soul, and their children will be guided in life. Mercy and truth are the internal »voice» that encourages grown child in his daily affairs, gives him hope, helps to feel love and to achieve forgiveness, holds and sends it when it is ready to do wrong, knowing that »no one is watching.»
These traits make peopletimely worry about the timing and quality of their work, encourage them not to violate the laws of conscience and society. It is the engine that will take their car in the right direction.
I will never forget a child, suffers fromharsh truth that has been incorporated without love. I started working with Kelly when she was five years old. It resulted from a shelter with complaints of erratic and anti-social behavior. She came into my office - a very nice, pleasant-looking girl. Soon we were playing together, but dropped the toy, Kelly began berating herself: »Stupid girl! Stupid girl! »- And I could not stop. Kelly has incorporated those tough relationship, she stumbles into the shelter.
Shortly thereafter, I visited friends. Their four-year-daughter was playing on the floor and turned the jar with Coca-Cola, from which her father drank. Her eyes widened in alarm for a moment, she cried »Oh!» And then added: »Nothing, nothing,» picked up a can of coke, put it, and ran for the paper towel to wipe the puddle. Girl almost unconsciously repeating what she had heard from his parents at his previous blunders. She realized his fault, but already knew what mercy. The fact that she had to hear and perceive in the family, has become a part of her soul.
So, the principle is simple: that was outside will eventually inside. Soft, comfort, encouragement, promiseforgiveness voice perceived by the child in the process of relationship, become a part of him, accompanying him throughout life. Notes, instructions, manuals, intelligent confrontation, the punishment will be incorporated as part of the individual and help adult stick to a certain direction in life. However, if the child does not perceive these qualities together, he himself will not be able to combine them in yourself.
Give your child a favor and give him the truth. Do not give him one over the other. Let him understand that truth and reality his side, they are not hostile to it. In this sense the combination of truth and grace: Grace explains to the child that loved ones - on his side, that they stand behind him; It shows them the truth the reality of the world and a way to survive in it. Give your child both.
Mercy and truth - two necessary elements forEducation wonderful children. However, you will need one more ingredient - we'll talk about it in one of the articles of the category «Six traits needed for each child.»
