Before you say »good-bye»

Do not ignore alarm bells

? The decision to break does not occur synchronously, andThen one of you will definitely be »abandoned» (yes, this is not the most appropriate word for two full personalities). If the partner has already decided everything for himself, you can find out about this before his official »farewell». How? By apathy. The man has lost his claims, the strength to quarrel and the desire to change something, and you have a persistent feeling that he does not need anything from you anymore. A sound decision is to call for a conversation. Returning something is hardly possible, although family psychologists sometimes succeed.

Take carefully

Unbelievable but true: some adults still use the strategy of »Shall else to himself gone» This cowardice, irresponsibility and meanness. If the decision is ripe in you, you must submit it carefully, with attention to the feelings of men. A tragicomedy when it breaks, do not endure - you have every right to demand respect. You gave each other a lot of happiness, why should it cross teenage antics?

Do not offer to disperse spontaneously

»Sometimes people during a conflict say: »All, I'm leaving!» They give in to the impulse and take with them anger and resentment, - warns Inna Khamitova .-? The decision about parting should be borne long, like a child, otherwise you will suffer from unextended feelings. » The other extreme is to tighten with the final step and start feeling disgust towards the partner. The best moment to put an end when you are still friends, but you have nothing to give each other.

»Cool» head before speaking

You thought for a long time, experienced, I have compiled a listgrievances and complaints, or realized that you do not want to put anything in the relationship anymore. Before reporting with myself about this partner vyplesni negative emotions. Our psychologist advises to do two exercises. The first - a letter to the man: write all that has accumulated on the paper (rather than typing on the computer cycles concentrating on the subject of reasoning), but not sent to a destination. The second - a »hot chair»: mentally plant a man in front of him and »personally» tell us about their everyday concerns.