Like this mother, with whom I hadtalk, you, too, are likely to wonder: »Why pre-teach a child to play?» And what does the loss have to do with »reality» - the theme of this chapter? We must remember that in reality, circumstances often do not add up the way we would like. We fail, things go wrong, relationships do not develop as we had dreamed. And we have to clench your teeth and try to extract even from an unfavorable situation, all that we can. How will a child's life in the future, depends largely on whether or not you are able today to instill in him the ability to deal with failure.

Sometimes if your child endure »the loss of the ideal», I understand that we do not live in paradise, but in an imperfect world? This loss can occur in many ways:

• the baby is crying from hunger or loneliness;

• crawling, he bumps his head on the coffee table;

• he hears »no» and yells in frustration;

• parents go out to dinner, and the child feels anger and fear;

• He grieves because he was not accepted in the Yard football team;

• he was not invited to Suzy birthday, and he feels rejected;

• subjected to punishment, the child feels shame and guilt;

• He tried so hard, but I still got a bad mark;

• it is not selected in the school team - he is not playing well;

• He hates rules and penalties;

• He does not want to respect the boundaries;

• friend betrayed him;

• he was not allowed to go in the evening with friends, he is furious;

• he wanted to get a role in the school play, rehearsed, and the role given to another;

• he threw the girl;

• dead friend or someone from the family, etc. etc.

A friend of mine and the little boy said: »Life is not easy.» You do not need to complicate even more child's life, you can ease it, if rooted in his character's ability to cope with the pain of loss, lesions that await us all.