Трудно переоценить, как важно для развития ребенка научиться привязанности. Все его способности и возможности в жизни будут так или иначе зависеть от того, насколько он привязан к Богу и другим людям. Дети, формирующие хорошие привязанности, обладают большей устойчивостью, способны отсрочить удовольствие, подчиняются дисциплине, могут перенести неудачу, готовы к нравственному выбору. Развивая в ребенке способность к отношениям, вы добиваетесь очень многого.
And that's why: child who is capable of love, will always find a source of energy for life, which makes us a lot of requirements. Мы то и дело сталкиваемся с какими-то проблемами. Ребенок, научившийся отношениям, сперва посмотрит, каким требованиям может удовлетворить он сам, затем обратится к Богу и другим людям с просьбой о помощи. Ребенок, не имеющий привязанности, предоставлен себе, хотя у него и нет достаточных ресурсов, чтобы самому управлять своей жизнью.
My girlfriend Betty recently pointed out to me the differencebetween his two sons. The seven-year Dylan »all out», we can immediately understand what emotions he feels. Ten Spencer »full confidence» and his or caress, not come out of his shell.
Betty's first thought on this difference,when the boys started having problems at school. Both children plump, and one of the students had called Dylan »are massive.» Dylan, always so cheerful, burst into tears, barely entering the house, and continued to weep when his mother embraced. They discussed the situation, and Betty Dylan developed a plan to get rid of this problem. Dylan sat on a diet, parents monitored his weight, gave him advice on how to behave with friends. They called the school, warned about the situation and asked subsequent to it did not come up to bullying. In just a few weeks the mood of Dylan considerably changed for the better.
Dylan knew he was not able to cope withthe problem itself, and appealed to the parents. He received them consolation, support and advice with which they were able to solve this problem together. So should do in life.
Spencer also mocked at the time due to excessweight, but no one knew about it. Boy more left to itself. He began to show aggression, arguing with teachers, fight with classmates. Then he moved away and did all for a long time and was sitting alone in his room. Estimates getting worse. It took a lot of time and effort to figure out; Children teased Spencer. Expensive cost him the inability to enter into a close relationship! Spencer The trouble is not that he did not have the resources to solve the problem of self - in a similar situation often any of us. The problem was that he was inept to contact relatives and friends and ask them for help.
