Parents are not the only people influencing the self-esteem of the child. Any person spending lot of time with him, helping him to shape his view of himself. This can be a relative, neighbor, babysitter, brother or sister of the Teacher have a significant impact on the child due to constant communication with him. Although the emotional needs of the child not so much depend on other people, like parents, they constantly affect him as a person and become an integral part of his everyday life.
About six years, when the child starts going to school, he no longer depends solely on his family. It was at this time he learns that the children outside its home value certain qualities. Boys attach great importance to sport, physical strength and courage. Girls typically value their appearance and character. The opinion of the child about himself will depend upon whether he has got these qualities or not,
Tall, strong Bart, endowed with good coordination, you will treat yourself differently than his undersized, clumsy friend Leonard. Leonard understands that it can meet the requirements of their friends, and therefore he thinks himself less worthy than Bart. As Bart easily given all sports, other kids tend to get him in your team, and parents and teachers are proud of his achievements. Therefore, Bart feels more wealthy than Leonard.
A child reacts emotionally to her growth, energy, size, appearance, physical strength, intelligence, skills, mental and physical disabilities and the ability to make friends. His reasoning about own merits based in part on the comparing ourselves to others, and partly on the analysis of how others react to it. Each such withdrawal or reinforces self-esteem, or, on the contrary, weakens it. Success in any field will have an even greater impact, if a child believes this area is particularly important. Twelve-year-old boy can play the piano, but to be a loser in football. However, the piano would mean very little if friends don't appreciate his talent. Any activity in which the child participates, is expanding its information about yourself. Clubs, sports, Church groups, school and work — everything adds his own portrait, and then shapes his personality.
Even under the best of circumstances the people standing outside the family circle, develop a child's sense of abandonment, but kinder to him than are his family, the easier he takes the rejection in the outside world. So while parents bear the full responsibility for the development of the child the correct opinion on its possibilities, this has an important role because of their relationship to the child inside the house with the first years of his life creates conditions for its subsequent success or failure.