The best gift that we can do to our children - it is their maturity and independence. And they think experienced parents about independence?
Dean Sabitova, children's author
My eldest daughter, 24 years old, and we have two yearsWe live in different countries. When we came to leave, it was education, work and boyfriend, even though the actual family, these relationships have become after our departure. Most of the money she earns herself, seeing each other every six months communicate on Skype. She's an adult, but I'm still in tears, I threw her alone. She became our daughter at age 16, when in the normal child families are already preparing to take off from a nest. We summarily passed all the stages of convergence, mutual usefulness to each other. And so I have a feeling that I was too early to let her go, not enough to be fed with love and care.</p>
I'm sad that she lives alone.
Barbara, a singer
Yaroslav 25 years old, he began to live independently 2.5years ago. The son and his wife live separately - they knew each other from school and met a long time, this is true love. They began living together almost immediately afterwards married. This situation has led to the son of her home and said, »Mom, we live here» - I would not have allowed. In my house there are certain rules, and I believe that the young family has to live separately - a life well-tested for strength of relationship. We financially supported Yaroslav first time and still try, but it is completely independent and very responsible person, working even more than our dad.
I calm him - see that he can support his family.</p>
Sergey Belogolovtsev, actor, TV presenter
I myself separated from the parent family whenI went to college in Moscow and moved to the hostel. He lived on a scholarship, which was pretty good, something tossed parents. Our children are separated by roughly the same pattern, follow the example of my wife, which is nice. For example, senior, Nikita, is studied, lived with us. But then I met a girl married at age 23 and moved out to a safe place, began to provide themselves. Sasha as well: there is a girl - was removed from her apartment for a living. I understand that this topic can be difficult for both sides, but if you happen to misunderstandings, do not need to go around and around children. We need to sit down and talk over all, to find an acceptable way to arrange for all life.</p>
Tatyana Bulanova, singer
Sasha 22 years old, he lives with us - and all of us isvery like. Our family democratic rigidly prescribed duties there is simply unspoken rules - for example, to clean the dishes after themselves. And total control either. I am Sasha as an adult, and always has been. I am sure that this is what nurtures independence, if the right to treat a child as an adult, quietly, unobtrusively assist and guide. Sasha went to work recently, so, naturally, we are helping him financially.</p>
And if the son will live with us for a Woman - II would react very positively. As yet we have a big family, I would have asked, perhaps a couple it would be easier to live separately? And they want to stay with us - I'll be happy!
Content:
1. When it is time for children to live separately (http://www.of-md.com/chlvl/);
2. How to live together (http://www.of-md.com/ltgthr/);
3. And how are you? (You read that section).
